No call rule dating
Finding that exactly three weeks and one day had passed since my crossing back into singlehood put a “huh” smirk on my face.It was then that I started thinking back to my previous relationships and breakups.I immediately told my best friend that I basically invented the lightbulb of breakup advice. If people knew that the worst breakup symptoms only last three weeks, it would make them much easier to deal with! My friends mostly laughed off my grand discovery, although they couldn’t help but admit that I did seem to be much happier; they were relieved to have “their chipper Hest” back.Still, I couldn’t stop thinking about this three-week coincidence.Given the old adage “time heals all wounds,” I know this might not sound totally ground-breaking.However, being aware of and expecting the chemical changes in our bodies, and having a solid “feel better” date to count down to, could help us avoid some of the anxiety, insecurity, and even panic we may feel when love ends.They can’t trust themselves and their thoughts; they can only focus on what will make them feel better in the moment, not in the long-term. It doesn’t take a substance abuse problem to relate; you just need to have been through a breakup.And like any addict in those early days of detox, you need to realize that any romantic decision you make within three weeks of your breakup is not to be trusted. If you want to reach out to your former lover, to figure out whether you did the right thing or whether you should be fighting for them, wait until the 22-day mark to act.
Lo and behold, I found that history was repeating itself: three weeks of misery, followed by a similar transformation.Study upon study indicates that romantic love causes a similar reaction in the brain as addictive drugs do.It stands to reason that we should expect to experience withdrawal symptoms after being deprived of our love dosage, but it also means there is a real, biological switch that flips when the drug finally leaves our system.A year and a half of thought, discussion, and deliberation later, I believe my three-week rule rings true more often than not.Now, I know what you’re thinking: Nope, nope, nope, and nope. I am not nearly suggesting that you will forget about, fall out of love with, stop caring about, stop thinking about, or completely get over the person you broke up with.